Understanding Attachment Style: How Therapy Helps Us in Relationships & Within Ourselves

How does therapy support attachment healing?

Why do we crave reassurance in some moments but push people away in others? Why do certain conflicts feel overwhelming while others seem easy to navigate? The answer often lies in something called attachment style.

At SoulFlo Therapy, our associate therapist Jenny helps clients explore how their attachment patterns influence not only their relationships—but also their relationship with themselves.

What Is Attachment Theory?

Attachment theory explains how the bonds we form in childhood with caregivers influence how we connect, communicate, and regulate emotions in adulthood. These patterns don’t just affect romantic partnerships—they show up in friendships, family dynamics, and even at work.

The four common attachment styles are:

• Secure: Comfortable with closeness and independence

• Anxious: Craves connection but fears abandonment

• Avoidant: Values independence and may avoid vulnerability

• Disorganized: A mix of anxious and avoidant tendencies, often rooted in trauma

Understanding your attachment style can be a powerful first step in creating healthier, more intentional connections.

Why Attachment Theory Matters

Attachment theory isn’t just a label—it’s a framework for understanding:

• Your needs in relationships: Do you seek reassurance or space?

• Your triggers in conflict: Why do some disagreements feel unbearable?

• Your self-concept: How early experiences shaped your sense of safety and worth.

  
  

When you can name your patterns, you’re no longer ruled by them. You gain the tools to choose how you want to show up in your relationships—and in your own life.

How Therapy Supports Attachment Healing

Working with a therapist can help you:

• Identify and understand your attachment style

• Explore how early experiences shape your current relationships

• Build new tools for emotional regulation and communication

• Move toward a more secure attachment style—both with others and with yourself

As Jenny emphasizes in her work, therapy isn’t just about fixing relationships—it’s about deepening your understanding of who you are, what you need, and how you can grow.

Jenny’s Approach

With her warm, client-centered style, Jenny combines psychoeducation with evidence-based practices to help clients explore their attachment patterns in a safe and empowering space. She believes that understanding attachment isn’t just about improving your relationships—it’s about creating a stronger, more compassionate connection with yourself.

Whether you’re navigating conflict with a partner, struggling with boundaries, or simply curious about your attachment style, Jenny offers tools that bring clarity and empowerment to the process.

Taking the First Step

Your attachment style is not a life sentence—it’s a starting point for growth. With the right support, you can shift patterns, build healthier connections, and feel more secure in your own skin.

✨ At SoulFlo Therapy, we believe that healing relationships begins with healing within. If you’re ready to explore your attachment style and create meaningful change, we invite you to connect with Jenny or another member of our team.

👉 Contact SoulFlo Therapy today to learn more.